Far too many married couples jump into a divorce proceeding before researching all the options available to them and considering the consequences that a divorce entails. Even if you are unable to afford professional help when considering a divorce, it is still possible to do a bit of research and find the answers online. There are many things to consider when planning to get divorced :
- The financial costs
- The trauma caused to children
- Living arrangements
- Ownership of possessions
- Updating Wills
- Retirement plans
- Closing joint accounts
- Finding employment if you have been unemployed
This list goes on and on. The costs of a divorce can be financially draining, especially if the divorce id an acrimonious one. The effects of a divorce on children are often brutal, with children finding themselves torn between two parents. A little bit of online research into the topic will reveal the answers. There are hundreds of reasons why couples or marriage partners should first consider relationship counselling before committing to the divorce process. Couples therapy is one of the first things that should be considered by any husband and wife that are contemplating ending their marriage. Far too often we find that people give up on their marriages too easily and don’t do absolutely everything possible to save the relationship. If you have children, you owe it to them at least, to try and work through your difficulties and spare them the emotional pain of watching their parents get a divorce. Karen Rootenberg is a marriage counsellor with close on twenty years experience in helping couples work through their difficulties.
Karen runs workshops from her practice in Cape Town as well including the immensely popular, Art of Being, course which has been running for over thirteen years now and helped many people break free of old negative behaviors and grow spiritually. Karen is tremendously gifted in the way in which she is able to connect with and empathize with her clients in marriage counselling. There are certainly good counsellors and bad ones. It may be possible to study at University and receive a degree in psychology, but that does not necessarily say anything about your capacity to truly connect with other human beings, or your ability to empathize with them. There are several universities in South Africa where counselling can be studied, should you have a desire to help people and make a career of couples therapy.